break up lessons :-)

Found this on line and thought it was very true so thought I'd share :-)


9 Best Lessons from Breakups...
1. Being Single is Okay
Some women may have been in a relationship for so long that they're not sure how they feel being single. It's a big adjustment to go from being one-half of a couple for so long to now being on your own. While going through a breakup, you can learn a surprising amount of information about yourself. Being single is also much better than being in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship.

2. You Can Have a Life That Doesn't Include Him
At one point, you likely envisioned a future with your boyfriend and couldn't imagine what your life would be like without him. After a breakup, you may find yourself saying "I don't know how to have a life without him in it." You can do it, but it takes time to adjust. Don't let him tell you that it's impossible; you can have an even better life than you did before even if he's not a part of it.

3. There is No Excuse for Certain Actions
In a relationship, you can sometimes be blinded by love. There are probably times when you forgave certain actions you probably shouldn't have, but after a breakup, you realize what those things were and how you should have reacted differently. If you learn from those mistakes, there's a good chance you won't let them happen again.

4. Love is Not Enough
When we're young, many of us follow our heart first and think second about if it's the right decision. As we get older, that starts to change but somewhere deep down we still carry that hope that maybe love really is enough. Unfortunately it's not - there's lines he may cross that even love can't fix - but learning that can actually help you. Love can do a lot - it can get us through some really tough times, but when you learn it's not all you need in a relationship, you learn not to completely rely on that. You start working harder on everything else it takes to make a relationship work and expect your boyfriend to do the same.

5. Communication and Trust Are Essential
A lack of trust or communication has led to many relationships falling apart. Many know this going into a relationship, but knowing and following through are two different things. After a breakup, think about when you could have communicated better and when you should have trusted your now-ex and didn't. You may not want to think about it and rehash old memories, but it can help you in future relationships.

6. Assuming Gets You Nowhere
There have probably been several times when you made an assumption about a situation, got angry and later found out the anger wasn't warranted. A few months ago, I was angry when I thought I got stood up by a guy I was dating. After awhile, I got a text saying he was on his way. It turns out there was an outage in the subway, his train was stuck and since he was underground he didn't have cell service - the outage was all over the news the next day. If you get angry at a future boyfriend about something, give him a chance to explain himself before you hit the "ignore" button when he calls.

7. He'll Cheat if He Wants to
If your now-ex told you it was your fault he cheated, he's wrong - he's the one that had the final decision to leave you or cheat and he chose the latter. I know it's a scary thought - that a man will say say you're amazing and he'll mean it, yet he could still cheat. On the other hand,, some women almost suffocate their men in an effort to keep them from cheating, but it really doesn't work and may actually have the opposite effect. They'll try to keep men from doing certain things like going to a sports bar to watch a game or speaking to a female friend once every few months. It's not a good feeling to be cheated on and unfortunately, most of us have been through it at least once, but regardless of how you treat him, if he wants to cheat badly enough, he's going to do it.

8. You Can't Change Him
When I was younger, I was involved with someone who was addicted to certain substances. I worried all the time, had trouble sleeping and talked to him all hours if he needed support. It finally got to a point where I knew I couldn't help him when he wasn't willing to help himself. After a breakup, you may feel completely guilty and heartbroken walking away from him, but the truth is, you can't make him change if he doesn't want to or isn't ready to. It doesn't just apply to someone who has an addiction, it applies to anything you may want to change about him whether it's that he doesn't feel like getting a job or he parties too much. There's only so much you can do for someone - the rest is up to him.

9. Reveal Sooner Than Later
While everyone is entitled to their secrets, there's just some that can wreck a relationship. If there is information you know deep down your partner should know, keeping it from him can only cause problems. The longer you delay telling him, the bigger the problem gets - then, in addition to revealing the secret, you also have to worry about explaining why you didn't tell him earlier. You never want to get to a point in or after your relationship when you say "I should have told him sooner."

As much as we say we would never do specific things or react in a certain way while in a relationship, sometimes you truly don't know until you're actually involved in the situation with someone you're head-over-heels in love with. After a breakup, once you truly grasp the lessons and learn from them, you're likely to do everything possible not to make the same choices the next time. If you have to go through the heartbreak of a breakup, it's better to at least make sure you're getting something in return for all your hard work.

I found the list here:
http://yourwisdom.yahoo.com/your-relationships/lessons-learn-breakup-art...

so fucking horny!

Hmmmm so today i went to see Mr B's new house and was already horny after talking to my bestie this morning so had copious amounts of masturbation before i went to ensure good behaviour! I was nearly tipped over the edge by his fiddling with himself and obvious hard on! glad he didn't try anything not sure how much my resolve would have held out :-o grrrr rushed out at almost indecent speed, i think :-/ oh well :-p needed to get home to sort myself :-) Think i might be just about masturbated out though! if there is such a thing.

A bit of filth! :-)

So we all know that i'm bloody horny, all the time! So recently a certain young lady and a hot guy have been entertaining my filthy mind was some real filthy talk. :-) It's been pretty awesome and OK they both live the other side of the world and i'm never gonna meet them but they can both do a very good job of getting me off, and they are seeing me through this dry spell ha ha so the lady in question is fecking hot and definitely making me reconsider the whole lesbian thing :-p and the man well i do like a man that can talk dirty comfortably :-) You know how some people do it but obviously aren't comfortable with it well the people in question are very good at it and make me properly horny :-)

pyjama's??

Hmm so i read today that pyjama's spell the end of the honeymoon stage? I've never been one for clothes in bed or anywhere else for that matter but i guess if there comes a stage that you wear pyjama's instead of diving under the covers naked to feel your partners nakedness this would indeed spell an end to the exciting sex times :-/ with Mr A it actually used to bother me that he wore boxers all the time, unless fucking me?? he'd get up and put them on after? seemed a bit weird other guys have done that i guess though but never pyjamas! lol i am now going to take this as a massive insult if a man wears pyjamas in bed with me :-o

Sorry about the depression the other day and thanks to the lovely Mr B for checking in on me :-p
Have got more to say on the whole Mr A  saga but not today or not just now.
Anyway opinions about the pj's?

single again :-/

Hmmm so i'm single again me and Mr A were destined to fail i feel :-/
We had far too much history and know each other far too well and he's a jealous fuck and i can't cope with the insecurity and i felt like i was always walking on egg shells, i mean i stopped talking to all the other exes :-p except when he pissed me off :-p wrong i know but hey who can help it. So it's been a couple of weeks and i'm struggling to be civil mainly because he's started seeing someone else! Now i know i don't want him but i guess i wanted to mean more than him moving on a couple of weeks later and i know that he's insecure and needy and can't cope with being alone but still! it gets to me :-( So now i'm usually all for being friends with ex's but i'm wondering whether this is actually hurting me more than it's helping and for the first time i'm considering wiping them all out of my life? I mean seriously we're not friends? I'd never phone them (unless i'm horny) and i'm sure none of them really view me as a friend i'm a boredom filler more than anything :-/ Wow i'm a little ray of sunshine today :-(